A Better Sex Life

Better Sex Life with a spaWhat is a better sex life?  That is something most of us seek throughout our lives at some point.  

First, a better sex life is about FOCUS; the better the focus-the better the sex.  

Second, better sex occurs when we are more relaxed and comfortable with ourselves- that gives up more to share with someone else.  

Third, better sex life is all about keeping it interesting to both parties.  That may be living out fantasies, working out moments that just tick the box, or trying new things to keep things invigorated.  

Fourth, a better sex life can be defined in so many ways, what is the common denominator for most people?  That would be taking the time to down shift, forget the outside world, and focusing on your desires.  


There is in my opinion, no better place to do all of those things than in your spa or swim spa.

If you take the time to set the mood, handle the possible interruptions, and jump off life’s carousel.  Sometimes that means taking time for just self to get into the mood, and other times it means incorporating someone else to make the moment special.
I thought I would add some things that others have to say about a Better Sex Life:
“I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.” 
- Woody Allen
“Good sex is like good bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand.” 
- Mae West
“The main reason Santa is so jolly is because he knows where all the bad girls live.” 
- George Carlin
“The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension and love causes it.” 
- Woody Allen
“Love is blind, they say; sex is impervious to reason and mocks the power of all philosophers. But, in fact, a person's sexual choice is the result and sum of their fundamental convictions. Tell me what a person finds sexually attractive and I will tell you their entire philosophy of life. Show me the person they sleep with and I will tell you their valuation of themselves. No matter what corruption they're taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which they cannot perform for any motive but their own enjoyment - just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! – an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exultation, only on the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces them to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and accept their real ego as their standard of value. They will always be attracted to the person who reflects their deepest vision of themselves, the person whose surrender permits them to experience - or to fake - a sense of self-esteem. Love is our response to our highest values - and can be nothing else.” 
- Ayn Rand
“Boys and girls in America have such a sad time together; sophistication demands that they submit to sex immediately without proper preliminary talk. Not courting talk — real straight talk about souls, for life is holy and every moment is precious.” 
- Jack Kerouac, On the Road
“Love is the answer, but while you are waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.” 
- Woody Allen
“Anyone who is observant, who discovers the person they have always dreamed of, knows that sexual energy comes into play before sex even takes place. The greatest pleasure isn't sex, but the passion with which it is practiced. When the passion is intense, then sex joins in to complete the dance, but it is never the principal aim.” 
? Paulo Coelho
“Sex, whatever else it is, is an athletic skill. The more you practice, the more you can, the more you want to, the more you enjoy it, the less it tires you.” 
- Robert A. Heinlein, The Cat Who Walks Through Walls
Well, as we can see from several authors above everyone’s ideas are different on a topic that most of us discuss on a regular basis.  Try taking more time to relax in your spa/swim pool being more focused, relaxed and comfortable with yourself, finding ways to keep life interesting, and taking the time to down shift, and to forget the outside world as you soak in your spa/swim pool.
CLOSING STATEMENT for a BETTER SEX LIFE:  “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” 
- Tom Robbins
DISCLAIMER:  The advice given in the blogs is about creating new ideas and possibilities that people might not have thought of for helping themselves.  Some of the ideas are from recent or past research, some are from helping patients find solutions in clinical settings, and some are things that have worked for several patients.  The main point is that we are not diagnosing your condition, its level, the many symptoms and issues that can come with any disorder, and making direct recommendations to your specific condition.  These ideas are meant to spark ideas that you can discuss with your health practitioner and get direct advice on your specific condition.  This gives you the greatest level of protection and knowing that if you take the ideas and put them into practice that they will not harm you in any way.  Be Well and Choose Happiness.
Dr. Kyle